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Fundamental Values
 Love
Truth
Right conduct
Peace
Non-violence
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Advice To The Parents
PHILOSOPHY OF EHV FOR PARENTS
The parents play a vital role in the lives of their children. They help them construct their inner world of values, imagination, love, hope, forgiveness and gentleness. They give them the foundations of self-identity, self-direction, motivation and purpose and it is on these that the children build their lives.
The parents strive to create wholeness and wellbeing in their children. What are regarded as normal parenting practises include values clarification, training and implementation. The parental role includes a sense of moral responsibility and commitment to teach the children practical skills which will lead to happy and fulfilling lives. The parents are naturally placed in an advantageous position to fulfil this function because the parent-child relationship is a very special bond which allows the parents much influence over their children. It is accepted that the parents are their child's role models, mentors, friends, counsellors, guides, teachers as well as carers at least in early and middle childhood. If the relationship is close then the parents remain influential throughout the lives of their children.
Admission to the school is based on student’s academic records, personal interviews, observations by SSIS faculty, parent essay questions, and admission evaluation.
However,our biological relationship and close physical proximity gives us opportunities to influence our children in positive ways, it does not automatically follow that we are always aware or capable of healthful expressions of love. It is our moment to moment behaviour which influences and moulds the lives of our children but we do not always bear this in mind. Indeed much of our parenting is unconscious.
The choices we make, most of our beliefs and values, the way we express ourselves, the pattern of relationship we establish are all based on our own childhood experiences. In any given situation we automatically fall back on our own experience of childhood and hope that what was good enough for us when we were children is good enough for our children now. But the world is no longer the same world in which we grew up and our parenting style, if based entirely on our own childhood experience, may be hopelessly inadequate to meet with the current problems that face our children.
towards our own realisation. Parenthood carries certain responsibilities and the manner in which these are discharged contributes to growth in consciousness that decides our ultimate destiny both as parents and as individuals. The responsibilities therefore are both personal towards ourselves and also towards the members of our family. Regarding responsibilities to ourselves, Baba has said: family life provides opportunities for us to cultivate justice and truth and through these to enrich our inner life.
A Householder has to uphold the ideals of justice and truth and promote them by his actions. He must feel the innate majesty of mankind and live in accordance with that high status.
Regarding responsibilities to others in the family Baba has said:
Heads of the family have to adhere to the schedule of rites and worship prescribed for them. They have to supervise the behaviour and conduct of all members of the household; they have also to equip their sons and daughters with the processes by which they can have mental peace and equanimity under all conditions.
Thus there are dual goals in our parenting practise, one for ourselves and the second for our children. But the state of parenthood is not a goal in itself. Baba has said:
‘You do not settle down on a step, or stay on a rung or build a home on a bridge. Move on, climb ahead, cross over towards the Goal of God.’
Top ten ways to teach values to your kids
In a consumer-driven society that broadcasts values that don’t reflect what you believe, how can fathers teach values to their kids? Here are ten ideas to help you:
1. Tell them your life stories and teach through your stories
Kids love to hear stories about your childhood. Weave in some moral dilemmas and you’ve got great opportunities to teach values to them. It certainly beats lecturing your kids!
2. Live your own life according to your values—walk the talk.
Kids learn by imitating, especially at a young age. They are very adept at seeing if what you say and what you do are matching up. Don’t give them confusing signals; follow your own values every moment.
3. Expose them to your religion or faith
It seems especially important today to let them know that they’re not alone. Providing your kids with a community of faith will strengthen their values and provide parents some “leverage”
4. Pay attention to who else might be teaching values to your kids
Get to know your child’s teachers, coaches, relatives, etc. Anyone who spends time with your kids may be influencing them. Know their values and beliefs as well.
5. Ask your kids questions that will stimulate dialogue about values
Telling them what values they should have won’t always be effective, especially when your kids get older. Asking them “curious” questions will allow discussions that will eventually lead to values. “What did you think about that fight,” may be more effective than, “He shouldn’t have started that fight!”
6. Talk to them about values in a relaxed and easy way
Nothing will turn your kids off more than preaching values to them after they’ve screwed up! Talk to them when everyone is relaxed, and do it in a light, conversational manner. They’ll be much more likely to be listening rather than tuning you out.
7. Read them fairy tales when they’re younger
Fairy tales capture the imagination of kids and can easily lead to a discussion of values. Kids will learn the most concerning values when they’re excited about the topic.
8. Involve your kids in art, activities, or helping others while limiting TV and video games
Kids learn values when they experience them. Allow them to experience helping others and involve them in activities that will expand their creativity.
9. Have frequent conversations about values in your household
This lets your kids know that it’s important and it’s not just something you talk about when they do something wrong.
10.Have high expectations for your kids’ value systems
Kids will tend to rise to the level of expectation you have for them. Their value system will often reflect yours if the expectations are high.
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